Today’s youth ministers are working with a generation called the “Millennials.” Technologically advanced and highly motivated, these teenagers – like every generation before them – have cultural considerations that must be evaluated to understand their motivations. Possibly most defining, Millennials are more comfortable with technology than we are. As the first generation to grow up using the Internet and cellular technology, they are efficient at communicating and innovating with technology. Teenagers today use technology to connect with each other in a secret code that the adults and authority figures they desperately want to avoid cannot understand. This provides more avenues for marketers to get in touch with teens without the parents’ filter.

Millennials have a different attitude about school than my Generation X. Like the technology that makes their lives instant, Millennials want to be the top of the class immediately. This entitlement can be attributed to parenting; Millennial parents are ensuring that today’s teenagers are highly-scheduled and successful. This reaction is often understood as a reaction to Generation X’s teenagers’ absent parents. Millennials are also the generation that questions school authority. They were in the classroom during Columbine – Millennials were the first generation to see that high school may not be safe (Info from The Perennial Mellinnial, a.k.a. Blake).

While technology, entitlement, and the drive to succeed make Millennials a unique generation, Today’s young millennials, like teenagers before them, are still kids. They are still emotional and they question authority. It can be difficult to be patient and see God in today’s teens, but the nature and purpose of the divine is there.

Teenagers can be overly expressive and excited. I used to get annoyed and chalk this up to hormones, but there is another reason teenagers seem to scream louder than most. They are making sure we hear them.

From the very beginning, God knew that we could be a stubborn bunch. Look at the Tree of Knowledge. God set one simple rule and human curiosity challenged it forcing God to take extreme measures to ensure it did not happen again. This altered history. Sometimes the gentle wind of the spirit may come in a whisper. But the Israelites knew when Yahweh was trying to make a point. Sometimes God would scream.

Paragraphs upon paragraphs in scripture describe the precise building and rebuilding of the Tabernacle, and the fear, awe and power of the Ark of the Covenant. King David was moving the Ark of the Covenant when the oxen carrying the Ark shook it. When Uzzah touched the Ark to steady it … he was immediately struck dead. Now that’s screaming.

In The God-bearing Life, Kenda Creasy Dean and Ron Foster remind us of what we can learn from Moses’ ministry and apply to youth ministry. When Moses was summoned to speak for the Lord and lead the Israelites to freedom, God brought a burning bush to get his attention. In a time before virtual realities and movie effects, fires were pretty awe-inspiring. God used extremes to shout “Hey! Listen! I have an idea, I don’t think you are going to like it … but I need to say it anyway!” How often do the youth we work with have the same message?

Without teenagers in our churches looking to be heard, what would we miss? It is the nature and purpose of God to speak out for and represent the least of these. Oftentimes, teenagers, not yet jaded and cynical by politics, stereotypes, or generalizations, can more easily see all humans as creations of God. There are times we don’t listen to their views until they scream or take extreme stances. Maybe that’s why they shout! Kenda Creasy Dean and Ron Foster share more thoughts on teenagers’ extreme emotions and spirituality:

“Speaking the truth in love, for example, is an important way teenagers minister to the church. Undeveloped ideological filters – the kind that help you and me screen out certain emotional stimuli—contribute to the emotional roller coaster of adolescence. Teenagers have trouble sorting through lesser emotional claims in favor of primary ones; every emotion is primary to a teenager. This emotional openness has an upside: It helps teenagers tune in both to God and to other human beings in ways adults have long since forgotten. Consequently, youth can be prophetic voices in the wilderness who call us to respond on God’s behalf to people we would otherwise overlook.” (The God-bearing Life, 116)

There is no doubt that Jesus questioned authority. He looked at the culture around him – the dishonest leadership and the misguided values – and he questioned it. Jesus constantly went back and forth with the Pharisees and Sadducees with rhetorical questions and loaded answers. When Jesus returned to the temple, he turned the tables in rage. Today’s generation is no exception. Teenagers today question all authority figures from their parents to their teachers to their first bosses to their ministers.

And when Jesus needed a community, did he turn to leaders and the authority? No. He rallied a group of ordinary men to take on an extraordinary task – to recognize, practice, and evangelize the need for God’s love. While technology, attention at home, the quest to succeed, and questioning of authority have given Millennials many traits that leave youth ministers challenged, it also has given a wonderful gift. Millennials are the first generation to be extremely informed about up-to-date global crises like global warming, pollution, human trafficking, and genocide. Millennials are teenagers, but their use of technology has given them virtual pen pals all over the world as well as access to quick information and breaking news. With this access and knowledge of global tragedies, they yearn to seek justice and love kindness. Teenagers’ quest for social justice has been squelched since the Industrial Revolution and high school’s beginnings. We are seeing a recent resurgence with global injustice awareness due to the proliferation of the Internet.

Without teenagers to question authority and keep us balanced, the risk begins for our churches and families and communities to remain in a pattern doing things ‘because we have always done them that way.’ Teens question the need to continue with tradition.

Eleven-year old Atlanta native Jonathan McCoy is making a decision for the rest of his life. He is making the commitment to never use ‘the n-word.” He has made a pledge, gone on sermon and speaking tours, and is making a commitment as a child to never say this word. It all started with a speech contest where McCoy’s speech about these convictions won first place. A quote from McCoy from CBS News: “According to the definition of the n-word, an n-word will never be a lawyer, a doctor or a teacher,” said McCoy, “It is implausible that 40 years after the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., that we still use this word that holds no worth in our lives and our future … I say, ‘don’t use the n-word.’”

Over a million people have watched his award-winning speech on YouTube and over 3,000 people have signed his online petition making the same promise he has.

Saying you will never do something is an extreme stance. But McCoy truly believes it. He has the energy, passion, and confidence to guarantee his promise even more so because he is young. Paul taught us that the passion of youth is an asset, “Get the word out. Teach all these things. And don’t let anyone put you down because you’re young. Teach believers with your life: by word, by demeanor, by love, by faith, by integrity. Stay at your post reading Scripture, giving counsel, teaching. And that special gift of ministry you were given when the leaders of the church laid hands on you and prayed—keep that dusted off and in use.” (1 Timothy 4:11-14, The Message)

Today’s youth have an abundance of gifts demonstrating the nature of God within them. As part of the Four Areas of Focus, The United Methodist Church wants to “raise up young leadership.” This is no coincidence. A congregation is thriving when youth are a part of it. The church staff may not be able to control or predict the path and mission field a young church will take, but youth bring life to a church because they bring God’s purpose to look for justice, to yell from the mountain tops for what is right, and question ‘tradition for traditions sake. Thanks be to God!

I am sharing all this because tonight Husbanks and I are chaperoning the Austin-area youth lock-in. I needed a little pep talk to get myself ready to confiscate illegal substances at 3:00 a.m. I can find God in these kids, and I should help these teenagers discover and strengthen the Godly traits they already possess. Thanks be to God!

No but really, pray for us. Sheesh.

Oh my goodness. There are things from your wedding that you don’t remember and they are hilarious. Here, a random sample:

1.You looked even younger than you imagined.

2. Your organist played codas like an 80’s hair-metal musician. Every song wouldn’t end. Just when you thought it would … he’d scale back up to the top and start again. Hilarious.

3. Most of your wedding was prayer. During the 20-minute ceremony, you prayed three times.

4. You had about fifteen candles in the front of the church alone. Dangerous!

5. You talked through the whole thing. What in the world did you need to talk about?

6. Your dress was BIG!

Over Thanksgiving, Ryan and I met up with my childhood best friend. Travis and I were neighbors growing up and had most of our classes together. Our evening was so much fun. We ate at chain-restaurant-king Chili’s and rented Spice World to make it a true 1990s high school night. Only thing missing was Ellie and Jill.

While out, Travis handed me a mini VHS. On it? Ryan and my wedding. Travis’ mom had recorded the ceremony from her hand-held video camera (this was pre-USB flip cam, Millennials). She lost then found the recording and gave it to Travis to hand to us. I have never watched any recording from my wedding. Isn’t that crazy to think I have it now?

This weekend is our six-year wedding anniversary. We’ll watch the wedding for the first time. I have no idea what my reaction will be. Will I feel like I am watching someone else’s wedding? Will it be in focus? Will the sound work? Did Whitney and Jonathan sing in tune? Did Stacie’s dress look shiny and new after the third big event? Can I handle watching my father walk me down the aisle?

Why has this recording been lost for so long?

Answer: People are not patient. Scripture and proverbs from many traditions tell us to be patient but earthly curiosities and desires get the best of us. Rumor has it: Patience is a virtue. If I had this recording before Thanksgiving 2009, I would have watched it and it would have been nice … but now it means a lot.

In my youth I was not a patient girl. Jumping from experience to experience was my forte. Twice now in my grown-up life, significant things have come to me in later time than I wanted (Sarah H. knows). I now see that waiting is a gift. I had to wait to see that.

If I would have had this video immediately … I would have watched it immediately. Glad I didn’t. Watching this video after six years is going to give me a glimpse of my life and family that I have forgotten. I’ll need a glass of wine and some tissues, but it will be a blessing.

And really funny to see us all young and acting sewius during our vows. I mean … really? Do kids know what marriage has in store? Noooooooo.

Love you, Husbanks. Can’t wait to travel back in time with you this weekend. You are a more and more wonderful husband everyday, but damn, I bet you look cute in that wedding video.

I’m in that phase of life where my friends are having babies all the time. I host baby showers at least monthly with my trusty companion, Sarah H. I recently purchased a punch bowl because, hey, let’s admit the facts here. Punch is a baby shower must-have and it doesn’t serve itself. And I got too nervous continually borrowing the official punchbowl from the Southwest Texas United Methodist Church Conference.

Baby showers are important because they prepare the mother for what she physically needs to take care of a new life. It shows the support of family and friends all pitching in a little bit to make a grand nursery possible (many stylish items you can find at Two Blue Peas).

And, as Sarah H. says, “every baby deserves a party!”

Another way to support your pregnant friends is through prayer. Julia’s son, Braden, was born Thursday at 28 weeks. Her strong network of family and friends have been sending thoughts and love for the past seven weeks as she has been in the hospital. Prayer is important because it prepares a mother-to-be for the spiritual peace needed to take care of a new life.

Another way to support friends with new babies is to bring them food after the baby is born.  Many new mothers receive the lasagna below from me. It’s the best lasagna I have ever tasted (it’s real ‘marican). Make it for a mother-to-be today! Or, enjoy it yourself.

Kevin’s Favorite Lasagna

1 lb ground beef

2 cloves garlic, minced

1 tsp dried basil

1 tsp dried oregano

28 oz (1 Jar) roasted red pepper pasta sauce

3 Tbsp. Sugar

Salt and pepper

2 Tbsp. red wine (optional)

1 can chicken stock

8 oz cream cheese, softened

2 Tbsp. white wine (optional - I mean, when do you have red AND white wine open?)

8 oz freshly grated mozzarella

6 to 8 no-boil lasagna noodles (enough to cover area of dish)

2 C steamed, well-drained spinach

1 C freshly grated parmesan

6 slices white American cheese

Heat oven to 400. Grease a 9 x 13 inch pan. Thoroughly cook the ground beef, garlic, and herbs in a large skillet, stirring frequently and breaking up the meat. Drain fat. Stir in pasta sauce and sugar and bring to a simmer for about two minutes. Season to taste with salt and pepper and add the red wine, if using. Set aside.

In a medium saucepan over medium heat, bring chicken stock to a boil. Add softened, cubed cream cheese, turn heat to low, and whisk until smooth (about six minutes). Season to taste and add the white wine, if using.

Spoon half the meat sauce into the pan as evenly as possible. Sprinkle one-third of the grated mozzarella over the meat mixture. Top with three or four lasagna noodles. Spread spinach evenly over the noodles.

Pour the cream cheese sauce over the noodles and cover with another one-third of the of grated mozzarella. Arrange three or four lasagna noodles over the cheese, then spoon remaining meat mixture over the noodles as evenly as possible.

Lay all slices of white American cheese on top and then top with the final third of the mozzarella and the grated parmesan. Bake uncovered until brown and bubbling, 35 minutes.

Let cool for 10 to 15 minutes or it will be too gloppy to cut well.

You can make ahead of time, cover, and freeze – just be sure to thaw in the fridge before baking. You’ll bake for 45 minutes if you have made the lasagna in advance and are baking it from the fridge.

So, the day after Beta’s demise we had to hold another service in the woman’s bathroom. The Content Team Mascot, Dudley Beta Fish, died on Friday. He is already missed. Jenn is considering getting another fish.

Can you believe that all happened one day apart? Tiffany thinks something is in the water. Literally.

After four LONG fish years of life, my office pet and the unofficial PR Team mascot, Beta has passed on to the aquarium in the sky.

In a small ceremony in the 5th floor woman’s bathroom where only close friends attended (me), a prayer was said for sweet Beta.  He really was a good pet – very affectionate (for a fish). Tapping the glass when he was hungry and jumping up to touch my finger when I fed him made him an exciting cube mate. Tiffany gave him to me when she was my Secret Santa in December 2005.

Someone please break the news to the Content Team Mascot Beta fish. And … please no one get me another fish.

God bless Beta!

Beta: December 2005- December 2009 

Beta during his younger working years

Beta Enjoying Retirement

Deirdre is in the Wall Street Journal today!

Not only is she in the Wall Street Journal … she is in the top technology story.

It gets better.

Not only is she in the top technology story … she is the beginning of the story.

For those of you paying attention: the closer to the top of the story, the more impressive.

Congratulations to Deirdre on being famis and for securing a sentence on what our company does! At the top of the story!

As I sat down to write my “what I am thankful for post,” I found myself at a loss. I love my friends, my church, and queso, but I have already read those blog posts. What could I contribute?

Then I got an email from Kevin. And I found what to be thankful for this holiday season.

Boozecats.

ABOUT:

Boozecats was inspired in part by Lisa’s frantic search for a photo of herself that did not contain beer. I realized every one of our pictures has beer in it somewhere, so I decided to edit them all out using cats. This site was made to showcase boozecat images and to encourage others to make their own. Submit a photo of your own or rate the ones on display and talk about how awesome this is. Remember: this is awesome. Don’t forget.

AN OUTSIDER’S PURRSPECTIVE:

Boozecats is a site that photoshops cats into pictures where booze used to be. This is why I joined the Internet.

Yay!

Pardon my bragging … but my friends are famous, y’all!

My PR colleague, Trisha has been on fire. She helped to get my good friend and robot expert Emilie quoted in MSNBC!

 

Also, you may have seen the YouTube video of the kids who can drive a car with an iPhone App. They work here! Trisha got them on CNN:

 

Last (but certainly not least) Sarah’s company, Two Blue Peas, was in Oprah Magazine, y’all! Her sales are rising to prove it. Got babies on your Christmas list? I don’t care if they are naughty or nice, they need to look good. Buy stuff for them from Two Blue Peas!

Mai friends r famis!